I've started worrying again lately about the whole attachment issue. For the past few months it felt like Evan was making some progress towards being more physical and giving/receiving affection. I loved when he gave me my first kissy back in July and the seperation anxiety showed at daycare this fall made my heart melt. I really was happy to see it mattered so much to him if I stayed or went.
Then all of a sudden the last few weeks things felt like they subtly changed or at the least had not moved forward any.
Perhaps it is being a very active little boy, being close to the terrible twos or just personality. How does a parent tell?
Of course those with biological kids just say "Oh, so and so was like that - never a snugger" but it is different when the child had such a damaging first year start. So, all the chat room on FRUA.org (Friends of Russian and Ukrainain Adoption) say I should address this.
Scott thought I was just worrying about nothing but lately he has agreed that Evan does seem to have issues with me.
I am not totally being rejected, but Evan runs away from me when called. If I am trying to feed him, he will turn his head away and grunt at me. And this is with any food, stuff he really likes. Yet, he will let Scott feed him. It is very hurtful to me as I want to give him all the loving he desearves.
After seeing this, Scott is okay with my wanting to have Evan evaluated by some professional that deals in attachment issues with adoptees. I say better to get him turned around at this age rather than later. Now I will have to see who I can contact about this. I would be extremely happy to have him evaluated and find out that he is just a normal active independent little boy!
Here is a photo of Evan when he decided he did not want Mommy feeding him, right before he got to sit in his highchair and feed himself. Obviously he was distraught and upset with being held and offered food.